We all know that second marriages do happen. But what goes into a man's or woman's mind when he or she takes the plunge for the second time ? Do people really marry for love ? If yes, then how does the love fizzle out after some time ? How to handle the huge emotional turmoil ? In some people 'once bitten so twice shy' happens.
There are playboys and playgirls who keep changing partners. That's a different category altogether. Initially girls were taught household chores and boys were trained to earn money. What I think is that whatever course it is, both girls and boys should also be taught the way to undertake domestic life in degree-college. One subject is enough. An array of suicides, divorces and family-tensions can be prevented by this. The exact mindset and clarity required for handling domestic life with elan, will then be developed by both the bride and the bridegroom.
'Marriages are made in heaven' they say. But having or developing the right mindset is also very much essential. How will the marriages survive without that ? The brunt will have to be borne by the kids and the fellow family members otherwise. People say, the right way to lead a marital life has to be taught by the family members before marriage itself. But like in my friend's life, what if the parents are dead at an early age ? What if wrong ways to lead life is taught, qualities like extreme greed, selfishness, revenge, lies and fraud are taught ? Trust me, the education system as a complete package will surely help.
Age-old mantra is totally over. There are new realities in life now. There are double income parents. Kids are taken care of by The Daycare Centers. The innocence is lost in the rat-race to earn money, money and even more money.
New age mantras or the current trend-
"You should start dating early."
"Love is divine. So you can fall or stumble upon new loves after every short period."
"Dating apps and blind dates are in. Make the most use of the technologies and easy facilities you have."
"All my friends are doing it. Why should I be behind ?"
"Doing illegal and unhealthy activities stylishly makes me look like Shahrukh Khan in 'Jawan'."
"Running after money is the only thing taught by today's parents."
"If you follow all the safety precautions, chating with strangers or disguised fraudsters or fake-id netizens are completely okay. Spending hours at stretch with these people shows that I am fearless, cool and charming. It's in."
My mantra-
"Hearing somebody's cuss words repeatedly leads to- You do yours and I do mine."
"Scan the minutest page on the internet to find work which in its own way, can provide you with money."
"Having a professional degree after graduation or atleast a Master degree is essential for looking equal."
"Your happiness should not in any way totally depend on your spouse being happy or him/her appreciating you."
"Cheating your spouse is clear-cut foolishness."
"Today's media says- 'If a relationship is toxic then you should end it, and start dating another man/woman.' But I say in today's high-end technology world, there is internet, Amazon.in, flipkart.in and an array of websites which can surely help you to do something new and concrete with your time."
"If a person hits you, hit him back. There are different ways to do it."
Finally, depending on the mental capacity of a person, and the graveness of the situation, a person can opt for a second marriage. But there is no guarantee that, this time also it will be a good one.
I'm a strong believer in preparing a list of qualities I need in a man with pen and paper, and after that procedure, scouting the world for him.
So okay bye-bye folks. These kind of light-hearted talks do help in clearing our hugely congested brains and bring some respite.
