WHAT IS LOVE AND WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?

Love is eternal and pure. It can be a source of immense joy. It beautifies life. It adds colour to life. It doesn’t get polluted by sex even, whether it is before commitment or after commitment.

Marriage on the other hand is well thought off. The girl should be right, the boy should be right. Is the girl a post-graduate ? How much does the boy earn ? These details matter the most. And auntyjis and dadimaas look into all the miniscule details as if its their own wedding.

The main question is, does love or marriage have a formula ? Like the famous theory goes –the biggest shortcut to become rich is to marry a rich girl. Likeways another theory goes, the shortcut to get settled abroad is to marry a NRI girl. But if I have to truly say, rich and NRI girls are not fools.

Can a marriage well-thought off by the brain, get rejected by the heart ? It can be. You start looking for love or sex outside marriage-it is termed as ‘cheating’. The ‘other woman’ or ‘other man’ can of course break the marriage. So is the third person solely responsible for the mess ? Is it right to call the third person ‘a homebreaker’ ? I don’t agree, because may be you looked at matters of the brain- ie financial status, external beauty etc and came to the utter ‘wrong’ decision.

 Can a marriage decided solely by the heart, fail ? No, that marriage may never break. Because in this case pure love acts as the fevicol holding both the people together. We do know that gay and lesbian marriages do exist. It is pure love there. Even though it looks odd for the ajjis and auntyjis, they have to take it since basically ‘love is blind’.

But the ways of the world are-‘You FALL in love, but marriage is a DECISION.’ It is also said that true love happens only during teenage. The ‘pehla nasha’ kind of feeling, the fluttering heart, its she only forever, then. But as age passes and the truth of the society pulls out the innocence out of your body, you begin thinking from your brain. 

  

My conclusion is that whether its love or marriage, you should do what suits you. I even know of a man who committed suicide because he had a fight with his girlfriend. He, an employee of my past company wrote on his suicide note, “By the time you come back and say sorry to me, I would have gone too far away”. Different people have different mental built up. So accordingly you have to choose a ‘marriage based on love’ or a ‘well thought off financial status friendly marriage’. A ‘well thought off love cum status friendly marriage’ is also possible. But it is rare and only for the few lucky ones.