WHAT I WANT MY DAUGHTER TO BE…

 

Garima, right since the day she was born, was distinct from the kids born earlier in the family. Even though I tried very hard to teach her to drink breast milk, she never drank it. She used to drink the powder milk heartily. When she became three years old, she refused to eat rice mixed with dal, curry or tomato-saar. She was adamant about eating just plain boiled rice. Even when she fell sick, she staunchly refused to take medicine of any form. If we forcibly put the medicine in her mouth, she used to immediately spit it out. She outrightly refused to eat vegetables and initially had white patches on her skin due to vitamin-deficiency.

Thus, she does things totally her way and is adamant about not listening to grownups. She is crazy about you tube kids’ videos. But she is good in studies.

She’ll be turning seven this September. Her grandmother makes her eat all the vegetables and fruits by coaxing her in a very polished manner. So now there are no white patches on her skin. Her grandparents, with whom she had been residing since she was four, have taught her to lead a very disciplined life. She respects elders and prays to God once a day without fail.

 She is still a child. Its too early to predict what her career would be when she grows up. She loves to dance, so she participates in Annual day functions in her school. As she reaches college, I’ll teach her the art of grooming. She’ll be wearing the best of clothes, have a beautiful hair-cut, waxed hands, well-shaped eyebrows and with minimal make-up like kajal and eyeliner will look pleasant and presentable. I insist on this because I want her to be a very confident young woman. She should not feel depressed looking at her well-groomed good looking fellow classmates. As and when she reaches ninth grade, I plan to teach her to cook, both veg and non-veg. Its not because she is a girl. Its because it is very important to eat food, and to eat food you should know to cook food.

I want her to be an intelligent and fierce career-woman when she grows up. I believe that common sense is something we do not get by getting degrees. I have myself seen individuals with great degrees, fooled by school dropouts. I want her to have basic common sense and take her decisions by coolly thinking over it. I want her to be emotionally intelligent too, so that people don’t fool her in the name of love. I myself believe, that the right age to get involved with a man is after post-graduation. She can even marry the man then.

We as parents currently, don’t put much pressure on her to outsmart other fellow students. I don’t want her to be jealous when others become successful. But we’ll encourage and guide her to put consistent efforts from her side. We’ll give her love, care, attention and time as parents and grandparents. We’ll protect her from evil intentions of people and encourage her in whatever believable career choice she makes.

Along with a decent and successful career base, we want her to be a good human being too. My blessings are with her, and I pray to God to keep her smiling always. That smile should be infectious, it should make people forget their worries and fall in love with her.